Transitions: Pressing Forward in Grief

Sorrow. Sadness. These are words that describe grief. Life rewind: grief came for one of the most important people in my life-my husband. It was December 18, 2014, which was a cold but sunny day. After dropping our girls off at school, we decided to do some last minute Christmas shopping for them. After a few hours, we headed home. As usual one of us would check the the house phone to see if we missed any calls. We did. As I finished putting away some items, I heard a screech like I have never heard before... then a Crash. I quickly followed the sounds into the living room where I found my husband rocking back and forth in a chair with his hands pounding the top of his head. The phone was the crash I heard, and it was lying on the floor. I picked it up to hear the voice (my sister-in-law) on the line say my mother-in-law has just gone home to be with the Lord. The transition was sudden.

The news was hard to take, because just six weeks before (the night before I started a new job) my husband's aunt had made her transition onto the Lord. It was sudden. She was Ms. Geraldine Wallace, and my mother-in-law's wonderful sister. These two women were beautiful, caring, accepting, and loving mothers. I thank God for having them in my life. I will always cherish the time spent with my mother-in-law and aunt. I have taken this transition process to heart, because my husband, girls, and I were unable to spend time with them last year in the summer. Summer is the time we look forward to every year, because we love going to Miami (husband's hometown).

 I have felt regret, because we were not able to travel there last summer. Although the occasion was a home going service for his aunt, I am glad my husband was able to see his mom. They were close and had a special bond. Mrs. Goring was truly a Blessing to us all.

Press Forward: it has taken me the last five months to write my thoughts down. I actually had started this post back in January, but was unable to write. However, I did manage to write a tribute poem while on an Amtrak train with my family. We left on Christmas day. I don't know how the words came, but they did. I was able to finish "The Mrs. Gloria"while on the 20 plus hour ride to Miami. I only shared the poem with one other family member, but the grief was too overwhelming. So in my notebook it stayed.

The poem stayed in my notebook until last week. This month of May is when we celebrate Mother's Day, but in my mind..it is Mother's Day every day. So in honor of my mother-in-law, I decided to share my tribute with my husband and in-laws. After getting the okay from my sister-in-law, I decided to share with family and friends on my other blog site www.thejoniecefile.com. My husband and his siblings each have a copy, and I hope my words have brought some comfort and peace. 

As time goes on, I hope the sorrow and sadness lessen. Yet the memory of my mother-in-law will grow in the hearts of those she touched...her Blessings. Everyone grieves for a lost one in his or her way. I don't know if the healing process gets better over time like the saying goes. All I know is getting through grief is a transition, in which you must press forward.

Kaisha

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